Theohumanity - The Question of Cultism

Theohumanity / The Question of Cultism

"...the irony of the information age is that it has given new respectability to uninformed opinion."
-Veteran journalist John Lawton 1995

"A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is still putting on its shoes."
-Mark Twain

If you are reading this after you have read derogatory remarks in the blogoshere about Theohumanity, Emotional Body Enlightenment practice, or slander in the name of free speech against me personally or those in leadership positions, i commend you on your integrity to be informed before you take anyone else's word on anything. If you haven't yet read these hysterical diatribes, i urge you to do so, that as an adult you will later avoid playing victim to something you yourself may choose to investigate, unlike what a few vocal critics have done and continue to do.

If you do investigate the blogosphere, you will also notice the absence of any reactive pro-Theohumanity commentary, which could easily called on to offer by those who have benefited from both truly understanding and embodying EBE, and who get the frivolity and falsehoods expounded by those who write to cult networks and both believe in, and embody, states of adult victimhood. Since i do not feel like a victim of these lies and otherwise slanderous comments, there is no need for me or anyone else living into the questions Theohumanity offers, to defend anything. If you are a thoughtful person, this lack of defense should be a compellingly positive piece of data. If it is not, you should probably stop reading now, because Theohumanity has nothing to offer you in this life.

In this context, given how Theohumanity offers such strong opinions about the errors and incompletenesses in other psychological and spiritual teachings that screen out the true nature of the human emotional body and thus offer distorted energetic-, behavioral- and transcendental-based solution paths, people who do not understand what Theohumanity is actually saying can experience it through unhealed or misinformed filters of heart or mind and 'see' what looks like cultism. In truth, Theohumanity is expressly committed to the end of all cultism and offers a healing path specifically applicable to why and how people become devoteeistically addicted to self-destructive or self-stagnative teachings and leaders in the first place.

Furthermore, Theohumanity so believes in and supports the sanctity of independent human choice, the categorical opposite of what cults do, it rejects the entire idea of cultism in general, because it rejects the notion of adult victimhood that is forever tethered to the idea of cultism. Anyone who points somewhere and says 'cult,' is always saying 'I am a victim, and I refuse to acknowledge that I and I alone can be the only one who chooses to give the power for another adult to damage me.'

If you choose something as an adult that in the end doesn't feel right to you, a healthy adult says, 'I made a bad choice for myself, and since I chose, it would be disingenuous to play victim to that which I chose, and I can't make the thing I chose to be a part of bad because in the end I am responsible for all my choices.' None of these writers have learned this basic human integrity domain yet this life: if an emotionally healthy adult feels like they got hit by a club, they don't react narcissistically with, 'Somebody hit me! Help ! I am a victim of evil!' They react: "Why didn't I see that club coming? I can't complain when it was I who was too blind to know what was happening.'

In that way, Theohumanity offers the only victims in life are children, that any adult who cries 'I am a victim' is always projecting unconscious and unhealed emotional energy upon some authority from their own dysfunctional childhood. The adults who choose to follow leaders who create self-destructive paths are not victims, because they themselves chose to follow the leader into chaos. The children who are the true victims of their parents choices in this domain didn't have that choice. And it is to the children of the world trapped in specific cults like those of Jim Jones, or in the general cult of family itself, that EBE is dedicated.

EBE thus maintains that the family is the only true cult because 1) children are trapped in parents' worlds of influence and cannot opt out; 2) the family both programs us how to process reality in general as the existential context, and then 3) tattoos the heart with the wound-based conditionings and value systems of emotionally immature parents as the content. The full effects of all three are so overwhelming, most of the congestion needs to go unconscious in order to cope with life and in ways that unconsciously drive the conscious realities experienced by adults and their behaviors. Thus only adults who are still unhealed, unconscious victims of their own family cults'-induced emotional, mental, and spiritual congestion, 'see' adult victimhood and cultism in the outer world as a projection of their own inner world of conflict.

A mature and thoughtful person who has healed most of that family cult conditioning and who disagrees with what EBE and Theohumanity offers, would thus simply say, 'no thank you.' They would neither play victim nor assume those who do pursue EBE are stupid and weak and helpless, as those bloggers maintain. In that way, Theohumanity is proud to threaten their overattachment to their present belief-systems in the same way Copernicus and Galileo threatened the paradigms of their lifetimes. We told them over and over how difficult EBE was, and how only rabidly emotionally immature adults need unconditional love, and they all said, 'OK,' until their limit of confronting their shadows was reached. Upon reaching that, they then play victims to their own choices and cry 'cult.'

In another sense, the family is the only true and real cult because anyone who has reached physical maturity can have children, with no concept of what it means to be a healthy parent in terms of emotional maturity because we have never had a clear paradigm or standard of what it means to be emotionally mature. The current family values conditioning infecting so much of our societal structures promotes family as some sacred structure without referencing how dysfunctional and destructive most families actually are, despite how normal they many look to the outside eye.

EBE maintains that the parents who need love, validation, support, or self-definition from their children are not qualified to be parents, because it is the child that needs love, validation, support, or self-definition from their parents! When emotionally immature parents need such from children, the children have no room to receive it from the parents. In that way, such parents are virtually equal to child molesters as abusers of their children. No traditional or new age psychology on the planet registers this truth, and to the degree emotionally immature parents are supported by our societies, religions, and paradigms to need anything from their children in terms of emotional nourishment, is the degree the family is the most abusive cult on earth.

EBE is dedicated to a world where this no longer occurs, where only emotionally healthy people who have matured enough to thus not need any emotional nourishment from their children, healthily choose to have children, because only they are qualified in that way to serve the true heart-needs of the child.

Unlike those adults playing victim in the blogosphere, a tiny percentage of people who have and are currently investigating the claims of Emotional Body Enlightenment practice, who curse what they call darkness without offering any light of their own, EBE does offer a light in this way. That light is so bright, that many adults whose emotional eyes are accustomed to emotional and metaphysical darkness as supported by so much of our conditioning, are blinded by the clarity of EBE in these domains and cry in pain, not from being actually harmed, but because they are being challenged to finally grow up emotionally.

EBE offers that psychology and psychiatry cannot track the true and actual depth of dysfunction in families because their paradigms do not clearly see the human emotional body, and so cannot offer any standard of human emotional maturity to which therapy is directed, leaving only symptomatic treatment possible. In that sense, EBE is Copernican, challenging almost all of the assumptions of mental body and physical body sources if emotion that keep us looping in metaphysical stagnation as deeply as the former teachings that the sun revolved around the earth, simply because that seemed to be true to uniformed observation.

So anyone can write to any cult network and say whatever they want, and these networks allow no rebuttal and never check any facts. These sites assume anyone who 'feels' harmed is actually in fact harmed, and deserves space to complain, or if they have an opinion, it must be right, and who and what they complain about must be wrong. It is exactly this that John Lawton refers to in terms of the internet imparting legitimacy to uninformed opinion, and what Twain means when he speaks of how real truth never can keep pace with lies. Furthermore, integrity and confidentiality necessities prevent me from offering devastating rebuttals of these claims based in the claimant's own work in EBE, which would completely explain the issues in their emotional body and how they are predictably enraged and playing victim the way they do, because their denials of their need to hold onto old wound-based conditioning, were challenged.

As originator of Theohumanity, i have never harbored any illusions about its embrace by most people. Less than one-tenth of one-percent of the planet is likely to even be attracted to the notion of Emotional Body Enlightenment in the first place, ensconced as people are in their conditionings and other paradigms. Over one thousand people have been introduced to EBE ground since its inception almost twenty years ago, and due to the momentum of planetary consciousness forms, less than 200 of those have been able to take the dharma past its halfway point, almost exclusively because of the inability to break out of familial and intimate codependencies.

As of December 2008, out of these thousand who have been introduced to EBE, there have been about a dozen (that's .012%) who judged EBE or me personally as not good and left with animosity. Six or so of that dozen today campaign actively as victims in blogs and on cult websites for Theohumanity's exposure as dangerous. This may seem like too small a percentage to address, but these are people who of course have the right to say whatever they want, but whose victim-based charges and lies must be responded to because there is no other venue for rebuttal of their lies and distortions other than this website.

All of those campaigning against this paradigm in the blogosphere share the identical resistance to both confronting familial and intimate pathologies not recognized or illuminated by their present paradigms of healing, and the notion of tough love that is so much a part of EBE dharma: parents whose children no longer support their parents need to energetically feed off of them or to get love from them; adult children enraged because parents no longer support old relationship agreements based in unconscious wounding; codependents in denial of the deep level of co-signing each other's wound-based pictures of life; drug users of all kinds who criticize EBE for not supporting their habits; and those simply too intellectually lazy or emotionally immature to investigate what EBE offers directly, instead of feeding off the misinformed opinions of others.

One of the saddest examples is a mother who is proud of the fact and defends it as right that she needed her now 21 yr-old son to continue to give her the unconditional love she required of him all his life, acting as the child in that regard and projecting her child as the parent. When the long-suffering son, who had tried to break free of her control and energetic mating with him for many years before discovering EBE, could no longer bear the way she fed off of him because of her own unhealed wounds and took a break from her and her denial of the ways she related to him as a partner and not a son, she metaphorically cried 'a cult has captured my son!' In other words, she did not like it when her heroin was taken away: her reaction proves her son was right about her all along. Her son will need years of help to ever find his center and to relate to women in general in a healthy way.

Another is a man who still seeks the childish unconditional love of a mother through channeled entities and other mother-figures he needs in his life because he never healed the wounds from how his own mother did not heart-nourish him: his repeated tirades against me personally and the paradigm make him think he is freeing himself of 'bondage' and 'control.' In truth it shows he is still connected to me, still not 'free' of me, still needing to push back, never realizing that the continued blogging shows he is not finished with it at all, even though he tells himself that and believes that is true by the very blogging that shows he isn't. It also displays that whatever paradigm he has found that makes sense to him now is not sophisticated enough to help him realize he is still 'caught' in the old one by the need to continue to push back.

Another is a man who thinks he understands the paradigm but completely distorts the teaching, and knowingly lies about things he reports as true facts. If it wasn't so sad, his tirades are laughingly comical, because he himself never did EBE, yet thinks he is an expert and tries to speak as one. Unlike the other two who are just misinformed and wounded, this man knows what he says is false and puts it out anyway: free speech laws were not meant to protect such people.

The writers to these networks also show that their lives are so empty they need to self-define by criticizing someone else and their paradigm because theirs are so lacking in real nourishment. Those who have a paradigm of life that truly serves them, simply do not play personal victim to another person's paradigm in these ways: they are too busy being fulfilled by their own! In these ways, they see EBE as a dangerous teaching that seeks to break up families and relationships and tries to 'control' people's lives using tough love as the mechanism, when the truth is they do not want to see how rife with unconscious strategy and distortion their lives are suffused.

The push-back proves the paradigm was completely right about their denial of their own unconscious wounding. The emails they post from me and others in EBE are wonderful examples of this love-based tough-love that is screened by their own wound-based consciousness so distortedly, it looks like cruelty.

Only a deeply wounded addict resists tough love: addicts not as deeply wounded relate to tough love as someone trying to help them. And only a deeply wounded addict experiences anyone as trying to 'control' them, as they seek to justify the use of whatever drug they need to sustain their strategic life. Only addicts thus experience tough love as victims, as they feel justified in feeling abused because they were not supported in the use of their drug, whether that drug is porno, marijuana, a particular self-image, or codependent relationship.

As such, the emails posted on these networks from me and other facilitators would change meaning completely if the reader knew the backstory of their history. Integrity disallows me to reveal that backstory, as it would break confidentiality of these writers' shadow-habits and drugs they do not mention in their puerile victimhood of not being unconditionally loved for their self-destructive or self-stagnative addictions. But if the whole background was revealed, a reader would understand why the tough love was called for. We are proud of these mailings and would write them in exactly the same way today.

In that context, the 'freedom' these persons extol they finally feel as they are rid of EBE is true enough: it is the 'freedom' of the wound-based strategic self, deeply relieved they no longer are under the relentless microscope of EBE's vision of repressed woundedness and strategy. In the same way that the search for self-esteem is proof of its own lack, the search for freedom, the feeling that it has finally been attained, or the continued need to affirm it, is always proof of its perceived lack also.

Real freedom is neither ever sought nor attained: it is the state of being for al beings at all times, whether they are in denial of that or not. Only those in illusional forms of freedom think they attain it by doing something. In that way, a person who is actually free of what they call a cult would not be so attached as to need to constantly reaffirm that, or feel they have to 'save' anyone from it: Needing to 'save' anyone from EBE to the extent of needing to put a blog out means they must think people are so stupid that they could not figure it out for themselves. Yet it is these same people who tell themselves they do it because they 'love' people.

As such, EBE simply got to the point of saying to them: 'we can't serve you any longer while you are in denial of your drug.' But some were enraged at this and felt they were being 'kicked out.' I leave it to the reader to understand that anyone who is enraged at being 'kicked out' must have wanted to be 'in' in the first place or they wouldn't be enraged at being 'kicked out.' Why would you thus vilify the very paradigm you wanted 'in' on, other than because the paradigm would not let you grip it as a cult? But instead of seeing this obvious contradiction in their own consciousness, they play victim to EBE and cry 'cult,' when it was their own overattachment to wanting to be 'in' that was the cultic dynamic in the first place!

Another way to summarize all of this is to note that when a person's consciousness really starts to get the height, width, and depth of what Theohumanity is offering, and how radical a reformulation it is of our conditioned ways of consciousness in almost all domains of life, that picture fills the foreground, and the imperfections of its teachers are seen within the backdrop of that view. When that happens, a dialectic to respectfully bring concerns and doubts about teachers' issues always is always honored and always finds a solution path. i myself have lost count how many times over the years i have humiliatingly owned my issues in front of those whom i teach, and worked them through afterward.

All humans are imperfect, including teachers of Theohumanity. But imperfections in this case do not include any of the sexual impropriety and financial looting so rampant in destructive spiritualized groups: the worst you can say about our imperfections is that our shadows show up also. When you take the risk to lead, you open yourself up to everyone seeing your issues when they arise. But what these bloggers do not get and cannot accept is that we are not in denial of those shadows and work harder than those we teach in working them.

When a person's consciousness does not or cannot get the enormity of what the paradigm is saying and offering in trems of confronting how much our societal, cultural, psychological, and spiritual paradigms support false strategic selfhood based in the mental body and false gods based in belief and faith, what fills the foreground is the imperfections of the teachers. This happens as a way to unconsciously justify one's refusal to peer into the next level of one's blindness or conditioning their strategic selfhood is threatened by, and that triggers unhealed authority issues from childhood for projection and rejection of paradigm and teacher.

In that way, the imperfections of the teacher are thus seen by unhealed consciousness as bigger and more significant than they really are, as that consciousness views them through unconscious and unhealed filters of parent authority congestion. Since the person does not realize they are looking through unconscious distorting filters of consciousness, what they think they see is 'real' enough to their view, but which veers significantly from the actuality of the situation to the very degree they are unconscious of the distorting mechanism of those filters.

In all of these years, it is only those who do not get the paradigm who kick back against it. Those that do, find their conscious-mess slowly turn into a new consciousness, where they see everyone who gets the paradigm is always working on their shadow and never in denial of it. And in this case the shadows of the teachers never reach the critical mass of the kinds of issues so often displayed in what our cultures have called cults.

Finally, though, the blogs that thus seek to poison the paradigm in general and me personally are actually extremely helpful to Theohumanity, because they serve to screen out those up front whom we could not otherwise serve anyway, and saves them from pursuing a dead-end for them, as only over-congested consciousness believes such without investigating the paradigm personally. They also serve to get the name EBE and Theohumanity out into the consciousness of the planet: it does not matter that the content is negative, when the percentage of resistance is so small, and all fit into clear categories of consciousness the behavior of which EBE can predict.

Theohumanity wants everyone to figure it out for him or herself and does not try to save anyone or convince anyone of what Theohumanity offers. i do not write this to convince you the reader of anything: you will decide for yourself what is true for you. i instead invite you to decide which truth serves what you call Love in the way you feel is right, and AT THE SAME TIME investigate how what you feel is true or right may be a distortion of reality based in unconscious wounding.

Both Theohumanity as a paradigm, and myself as a man, do this, relentlessly questioning our truths as deeply as both question the truths of other paradigms. No groups that are commonly called cults ever question their own truths. In many ways i am a simple man who likes to clean his own house, play chess with his stepson, and, unlike most spiritual gurus, not wealthy enough to have handlers to carry my bags whenever I check into a hotel when i give a presentation or do my grocery shopping for me.

As i said in a recent lecture at the U of C at Berkeley, the paradigm governing EBE sees all truths, including its own, as arbitrary, and that absolute truth is impossible for any human to ever claim. All we can do as a species is try to learn how our relative truths may or not be in resonance with a reality where our biggest selves and our healthiest emotions can govern our choices in life.

Finally, here is an excerpt from a recent email sent to all those currently investigating EBE and Theohumanity, offered as evidence of everything said in this posting.

"....In the light of recent attacks on me and leaders of the paradigm personally and the paradigm in general on the blogosphere, i write to urge you to read and consider these attacks very seriously. Your independent seat of being is far more important than any adherence to any one paradigm, including Theohumanity. As i have always said, if you have any doubt whatsoever about the paradigm as criticized by these blogs, i urge you to leave now and find a way to heal that is more in sync with your own heart; and, at the same time, consider how no cult would ever urge you to do such a thing, and to judge these blogs with that standard."

daniel barron